Meeting Myself
with Compassion
A gentle mirror for how you're meeting yourself, just as things are right now.
Compassion is what we naturally feel towards others who suffer—and self-compassion is turning that same thing inward.
26 short statements based on Kristin Neff's self-compassion scale. For each statement, simply notice how often it reflects your real experience — not how you think it ought to be.
Review your result.
Some tiny practices to support you, and a PDF of your reflection to download and keep.
This tool doesn't use AI, nothing is saved, and no emails are collected — so please stay on this tab until you've viewed your results.
A self-guided reflection — not therapy, assessment, or diagnosis. If you're in significant distress, please reach out to someone you trust or a qualified professional.
The scale used in the quiz was developed by Dr Kristin Neff
Dr Kristin Neff is an Associate Professor at the University of Texas at Austin and a pioneering researcher in self-compassion — she created the first scale to measure it.
Neff, K. D. (2003). Development and validation of a scale to measure self-compassion. Self and Identity, 2, 223–250. Used here with thanks, within the terms of use stated by Dr Neff.
This app was built by Davina Robertson MA.
What you noticed
A reflection, gently offered — with Davina Robertson MA
These results are not a verdict or a diagnosis. They are simply an invitation to notice — a gentle mirror, held with kindness, showing you where you might soften towards yourself.
Your personal reflection — with a closer piece of feedback and two gentle practices chosen for you — is ready as a printable keepsake.
Based on the Self-Compassion Scale. Neff, K. D. (2003). Development and validation of a scale to measure self-compassion. Self and Identity, 2, 223–250. Used with thanks, within the terms of use stated by Dr Neff.